Marrying someone from another race can launch couples into a lifetime of discovery and compromise, Xu Jingxi reports in Guangzhou.

A Chinese mother, her foreign husband and their mixed-race children dress up for a Halloween party in Guangzhou. Photos by Zou Zhongpin / China Daily

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Dressed up as these much-loved characters, about 30 children between 11 months and 6 years old enlivened a gathering in Guangzhou on Sunday, four days ahead of Halloween.

What looked like the cutest Halloween party ever was held by a QQ group of Chinese mothers or mothers-to-be, with babies of mixed ethnicity. The women met their husbands of a different race in the South China metropolis, where many foreigners come for study, business and jobs.

Overcoming different perspectives about marriage and children's education is a big part of the love stories of mixed-race couples in China, says the QQ group's co-founder Huang Yuzhi, whose husband is from Albania.

Herold Balla, Huang's husband, came to Guangzhou in 2005 to pursue international trade opportunities. Three years later, he met Huang at a party hosted by a mutual friend. Their 2-year-old son Alex is a popular advertising model, like many other mixed-blood children. He shoots as many as eight ads every month.

The European father has often been puzzled by some Chinese customs, from gift-giving traditions at weddings to discipline for children.

Huang says she and her husband often argue about whether "stick parenting" is acceptable, a divergence that is often discussed by Chinese mothers in the QQ group.

"I think it's OK to spank Alex if he does something wrong, but my husband thinks it is unacceptable even if it's just hitting Alex's palm with the flat of my hand," says Huang.

Balla chooses to give way and "do in Rome as the Romans do". "Mutual understanding and respect are important in relationships, especially in a mixed marriage," Balla says.

However, not all foreign husbands are ready to embrace Chinese customs.

Zhang, a mother of two, and her Canadian husband fell in love at first sight and got married eight months after their first meeting in 2005.

Chinese women have the tradition of zuoyuezi, when they are confined indoors for a month after delivering a baby to rest and recover. During the maternity month, maids are hired to take care of the newborn and the mother.

"We didn't hire a maternity matron. My husband said that zuoyuezi is an excuse made for lazy women. He argued that babies should be taken care of by their mothers instead of strangers," Zhang sighs.

"Yet I can understand why he was so tough. Westerners don't have the tradition of zuoyuezi, and my mother-in-law raised her three children as a single mother so it's reasonable that my husband doesn't think it a problem for me to look after babies on my own."

Zhang stayed in her hometown in Wuhan for the maternity month after giving birth to her elder son because her mother was able to take care of her there.