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你是全職媽媽？職業媽媽？或者是單身媽媽？年輕媽媽？還是大齡媽媽？隨著社會的全面進步，媽媽在家庭中的角色和培養教育孩子的方式也在發生著各種各樣的變化。新時代的媽媽，要快樂，要健康！
Life
in America has changed a lot over the past 20 years and so, too, has motherhood.
Parents and experts agree that while bearing and raising children has become
progressively easier, motherhood remains an intensely challenging
experience.
Many modern mothers feel luckier than their mothers. That's
what a group of young mothers told NBC news recently.
"I can do my work right here, from my kitchen desk. I can write my
stories, send them out in an e-mail and be done with it. My mother didn't have
that choice. I do," one mother said.
"On my blog, I keep track of what my kids are doing, so my parents and my
husband's parents know what's going on all the time. I can use the Internet to
connect with a lot of moms from all different backgrounds that I would not
normally get to meet," another added.
Along with advances in technology, other trends have made modern mothers'
lives easier than their mothers', according to a recent survey by Parenting
Magazine.
"Dads are spending about twice as much time taking care of
their kids today. It's up to 7 hours a week in average. That gives moms more
flexibility," Parenting Magazine editor Lisa Bain says. "Modern working mothers
also have a more flexible work life" she adds. "It used to be, 'I work or I stay
home.' But now, moms are not seeing it as just black and white. They are trying
to create scenarios that really work for them."
But in the magazine's survey, Bain says, 73 percent of moms said yesterday's
moms had it easier. Ninety-six percent say today's moms are more stressed.
"What everybody sort of underestimated is the amount of pressures that has
placed on us," says Trisha Ashworth, a mother of three children. "This
generation is seen as very lucky. We certainly are. We have many choices. But
pressure is put on us to fulfill those choices, this dream of being able to do
it all and do it all perfectly. This is really a tough generation to be in."
Ashworth says modern mothers even create more pressure for themselves.
"The past generation kind of knew what was expected from them," she says.
"For the most part, they had to have dinner on the table. They had to do the
laundry. They allowed their kids to run outside and play by themselves for 3
hours at a time. Our generation is trying to figure out, 'What is a good mom?' A
lot of us put pressure on ourselves to be with the kids a lot. We don't allow
them to run outside and play. We define ourselves as good moms if we are on the
floor playing with them. That's a lot more pressure too."
Ashworth, along with her friend Amy Mobile, who is also a mother, interviewed
more than 100 mothers across the country, searching for the tools and the
resources to help today's moms handle the increased pressures of motherhood.
They describe their findings in a book titled, I was a Good Mom Before I had
Kids: Reinventing Modern Motherhood.
"One of the conclusions in the book is there is no magical right path,"
Mobile says. "We all can be good moms as long as we are really adjusting
our expectations to what's real and making conscious choices based on what's
right for us," Mobile says. "Learn to redefine what a good mother is for your
family, for yourself, something that's attainable,"
Young mothers also need to trust themselves, follow their instincts and learn
to worry less about their kids, according to writer and parenting expert Paula
Spencer:
"Worry and guilt are two things that every mother has," she says. "You can't
make them go away completely. We certainly have new things to worry about,
but I don't believe it warrants the degree of hysterical worry that people put
into it. People are worrying about getting their child to college while the
child is still in pre-school. They are worrying about every morsel of food we
feed them because they are afraid of some future diseases 50 years from now."
While raising her 10 kids, Kathryn Sansone says she also learned how to face
her worries and reduce most of the pressures she felt. In her book, Mothers
First, Family Always, she recommends that mothers be sure to take care of
themselves, so that they are better able not only to juggle their roles as a
woman, wife and mother, but to thrive in all three.
Not only will you benefit from being a healthier woman, as well as your
husband and your children, she says. "So over the years,I learned that you have
to give time to yourself in three levels: physically, spiritually and
emotionally. You have to keep them in balance.Physically, you have to work out.
On a spiritual level, I can't possibly take it all on myself, all the worries,
all the stresses that I have with my children, family and husband. So I give it
up to God and let it go. Then emotionally, you have to reconnect with the
friendships that you had before you got married and had children,and reconnect
with your girlfriends and other mothers that are doing the same thing. So
you don't feel alone.You can share and learn from other people."
Sansone says whether they're stay-at-home or working, married or single,
older or younger, today's mothers are stressed out. They need to take better
care of themselves. Mothers who take care of themselves are happier. And happier
mothers, she says, can raise happier children.
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